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So I am a part of the LGBTQ community and work in a big city in middle europe. A lot of my coworkers are religios and have a foreign background. They are mostly very nationalist and homo-/transphobic. I hate them for their blind hate and bigotry, which wont change. I have realised, that I have become a bit bigotred towards people like them in the last few months, which is, even tho my biases often revealed to be true, just unfair to them. How could I stop that?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

What do you mean by ignoring background? At first that sounds like "I don't see color" but surely you dont mean it like that. What did you have in mind?

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I absolutely mean it like that.
It doesn't preclude acknowledging that other people do see color.

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  • Person is seen as (color) by racists
  • Person is (color)
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Ignoring or dismissing someone's background, culture, identity, and experiences is a terrible way to get to know them. That's like trying to understand the Odyssey without knowing about the Iliad

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

~~Ignoring or dismissing~~ Assuming based on stereotypes someone's background, culture, identity, and experiences is a terrible way to get to know them.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm not saying to assume. But that doesn't mean ignore. You acknowledge, listen, and learn. It's part of the whole story.