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What's something that you feel genuinely sad about that you've been keeping in for a while? (leminal.space)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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[–] 72 points 4 months ago (17 children)

I guess the people close to me know that losing my cat in January was a way bigger deal for me than I've talked about.

Just writing this, thinking about how I miss him, I can feel the emotion building up. 🥴

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  • [–] 19 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    It's been a few weeks for me. His ashes just came back yesterday and it's been hard.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    If you haven’t gotten one already, brace for late condolences cards from places like your vet or animal hospital.

    Those were hard on us when we got them weeks later.

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    I lost my sweet void a few years ago, and it still hurts when I think about her, but the pain is much more manageable that it was.

    Hang in there friend, it won't always be this hard.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Thank you.

    I may even have more cats in the future, but it'll never be the same. He meant so much to me, a once in a lifetime connection.

    Even when it gets easier I wouldn't want it to ever feel totally okay that he's not here. 🥰

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    You're welcome, and it sounds like you're in the right headspace. Each kitty is their own special point in your life, and no kitty can replace another.

    If it helps you any, in the last year I got a new void after mine died about 4 years ago this summer. I love my new little void, but I still cry over my former void. The hurt is still there, but bearable.... most of the time anyways.

    Take care

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Im sorry. I know how you feel, but I want you to know it gets better. You still miss them but you think of all the happy times, the times when they fetched a toy or meowed in a funny way. You think of how they had a forever home and a good life with you, no matter how long or short.

    Drat I think some onion ninjas snuck in while I was writing....

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Maybe you have the space to foster, I funnelled the grief from losing my gorgeous cat, towards caring for sick kittens so they could be adopted.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    I love this idea. It makes so much sense.

    I suspect and fear the inevitable "foster fail" when I inevitably fall in love again.

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