The abusive thing that I grew up around may or may not be dead, haven’t spoken to her in 20yrs. But the history of cancer on the women’s side took all her grandmother, all her aunts, and my grandma, so there’s a strong chance she’ll rot and die without family. And while she’ll undoubtedly continue to bemoan her victimhood and abandonment to the end, won’t change that she’s driven her children away. I can totally understand your satisfaction.