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this post was submitted on 29 Apr 2026
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Which feelings?
Very few feelings are allowed. If you keep to those social acceptable feelings, you're fine. The second you go off-script, people are done with you.
Like I can pet my dog and say I love her. That surface level stuff is fine. But talk about anything complex, like the struggles we've had, or how she helped me through some depressing periods or she had a period of sickness and anxiety and misbehavior? People freak out and back away or tell me to shut up and go get a therapist and get my dog one too.
Men are allowed a very narrow and shallow range of public emotion. Basically anger, and sentimentality are acceptable. Anything else? You're creepy, weird, or mentally ill.
If you go outside that box or show complexity or vulnerability, you're socially rejected because it makes people 'uncomfortable.'
Yeah, no, I meant less the surface level stuff and more the "anything complex" category that you brought up.
Not everybody wants to talk about that kind of stuff all the time, and that's normal. But it has not been my experience that all men want to talk about surface level stuff and only women talk about deeper feelings.
cool, my experience is that people only want to talk about their problems, regardless of gender. they dont' give a fuck about yours and get offended and upset if you do so. but I'm male, and I've never had the experience of having anyone care about my problems beyond dismissing them as 'bringing them down' and that i need to 'get over it'. even when it's my dad dying of cancer and it's my so called 'loving girlfriend' of years.
That really sucks, and I can't tell you why your experience has been different from mine. I'd guess you ended up around shitty people. And maybe it kept happening, making you feel jaded and/or reluctant to share with others, including those who may have been more accepting.
I'm glad you are least recognize that your girlfriend (hopefully "ex-" now) isn't as loving as she seemed.
I hope that you can find people to keep in your life with whom you can have those deep conversations about your feelings.
Because money mostly. Once people find out I am not rich they tend to treat me radically differently than when they are under the impression I'm wealthy.
I haven't had that experience, but it's probably because almost nobody assumes I'm rich in the first place, lol