If we do, we’re questioning doctors, so we look stupid

Circumcision being medical is almost entirely an excuse by religious people. Cases where it is needed are rare (although additionally there are cases where it is not needed but is one of the possible solutions) and most of these cases are later in life where the person can provide informed consent.

and we’re questioning women, who all (in my experience) say they aesthetically prefer it, so we look sexist

What the fuck? How is that sexist? Just because Amerikkkan women who are used to it prefer it because it's what they see as normal (In saner countries where infant genital mutilation is rarer women tend to prefer uncut because it's what's normal there) doesn't mean that it should be done. Your body your choice. That's equivalent to saying that women refusing to try to try to sexually appeal to men as much as possible is misandry.