That’s a really sharp way to frame it.

The idea that existence isn’t binary but a gradient actually reminds me of quantum computation — where something isn’t simply 0 or 1, but exists in a superposed state.

But if we follow that line, it seems like the question shifts again: what determines when that “gradient” stabilizes into something definite?

In my view, that stabilization isn’t arbitrary. It emerges where multiple subjectivities intersect and cohere.

So rather than existence being just relational in a diffuse sense, it might be that reality becomes determinate at specific points of alignment — where the observer itself is generated as part of that coherence.