▲ 1472 ▼ Student who punched another student holding pro-ICE sign at Lake Zurich High School received 2-day suspension (www.lakemchenryscanner.com) submitted 6 months ago by Sunflier@lemmy.world to c/news@lemmy.world 304 comments fedilink hide all child comments This kid:
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Why the fuck would you ever narc on yourself? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) I disclosed my history accurately because I am comfortable with my choices and if I lose out on something because of them, I can accept that. I stay happy with myself that way, which is more valuable to me than a specific school. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 months ago (1 child) There's zero advantage to ever do that, you can only be happy narcing on yourself? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) There’s not zero advantage to honesty, my friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Did they ask you a question where you either had to narc on yourself or lie? Because voluntarily narcing on yourself isn't honesty, its stupidity. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) I disclosed my history accurately because I am comfortable with my choices and if I lose out on something because of them, I can accept that. I stay happy with myself that way, which is more valuable to me than a specific school. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 months ago (1 child) There's zero advantage to ever do that, you can only be happy narcing on yourself? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) There’s not zero advantage to honesty, my friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Did they ask you a question where you either had to narc on yourself or lie? Because voluntarily narcing on yourself isn't honesty, its stupidity. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 months ago (1 child) There's zero advantage to ever do that, you can only be happy narcing on yourself? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) There’s not zero advantage to honesty, my friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Did they ask you a question where you either had to narc on yourself or lie? Because voluntarily narcing on yourself isn't honesty, its stupidity. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) There’s not zero advantage to honesty, my friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Did they ask you a question where you either had to narc on yourself or lie? Because voluntarily narcing on yourself isn't honesty, its stupidity. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Did they ask you a question where you either had to narc on yourself or lie? Because voluntarily narcing on yourself isn't honesty, its stupidity. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Of course they asked about suspensions and expulsions, I wasn’t just writing in “and then one time, I stole candy from the store…” But no, I don’t really care about presenting a specific face to a specific audience. I engage in appropriate security around any information that isn’t mine to share or that could endanger a friend, but if I’m going to lose out on a school for being a supportive friend, I don’t want to go to that school. I guess there was a benefit in identifying that that school was going to be full of people who do want to lie about their behavior for their own gain, which I’m not interested in. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I dunno man, the way you're talking made it sound like you just freely offered up that information. How the hell am I supposed to know? You do you, but you're doing yourself a disservice. Protecting yourself by omitting sensitive information doesn't hurt anyone. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Well, it’s a college application, so of course it’s a question they ask. They also asked about my grades. I’m not doing myself a disservice by being honest about my actions. To cover them up for my own gain is cowardly and makes the world a worse place, in my opinion. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Not admitting something is not covering it up. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Whatever evasion someone might suggest feels chickenshit to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) And narcing on yourself for some false sense of moral superiority feels cuckhold to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I am actually into cuckqueaning! And again, I’m not ashamed of myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Idk what that means permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Cuckholding is for men, cuckqueaning is for women. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Wat? Why does that concept need gender specific words? How is cuckhold not gender neutral? I don't understand 🤔 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) I don't approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that's just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man. Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect. It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I'm not following that description. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity. The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly). In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you'd ever see something like that. That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 point 6 months ago* Yes, though I would caution you about that level of reductiveness. I know men into Cuckholding and women into cuckqueaning and they’ve got relatively little in common personality-wise. They’re both founded on insecurity, but a kink for nuns and a kink for feet are both founded on a longing for the forbidden and they’re not the same. Edit: do femme and masc hit you better than women and men? permalink fedilink source parent
