neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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Over the past two days, I've been called a troll more times than I can count. On a thread I made that was the top ranked active thread on hexbear an hour ago, a user saw my name and decided to debate my gender, saying it wasn't real. Most neurotypicals refuse to believe that my identity could be that of a real person, because... in a twisted way, they're right. I really am my gender, and I really do think narcissists deserve basic rights (something that also earned me a lot of troll accusations), but I'm just not a person. Their senses of empathy are failing to work on me and all they see is this black void where a person should be, because in terms of reality that's what's there in my head. Nothing real. To a narcissist, personhood is a grandiose delusion. A fiction, a myth. We invented the idea that we are people who deserve to live, because without that idea we would die. Neurotypicals get taught that idea by their parents, but when our parents abused us, they broke the part of our developing brain that was capable of truly believing in that idea. We lie and say that we want to live. We lie and say that we deserve to live because we are people.
I'm not like most other narcissists. I don't play by the rules of neuronormative society, I reject them. I honestly tell you that I am the cheap imitation of a person, but that I deserve to live anyway. Most people think you have to be a person in order to deserve to live. That's why most people aren't vegan. Most narcissists believe that too, because they play by society's rules. It's really hard to see beyond them. And that's why they lie to try to fit in. We don't even know we're lying, because when you aren't a real person, truth is whatever you wish it to be. There's no foundation on which to build a set of truths because there's no person. I had to go and find a foundation for reality itself that didn't depend upon the idea of personhood, and it's VERY different to neuronormative reality.
I'd love to tell you more about the NPD experience, if you're still interested. But please don't call me a real person again.
Thank you
I'm active in plural spaces, or at least I used to be, and I saw a lot of arguments between sysmedicalists and endogenic systems. The sysmedicalists would say "The documented medical phenomenon of traumatic identity dissociation is the only way to become plural!" and the endogenics would say "We have a right to exist and plurality is not inherently a disorder!" And the funny thing is, a couple of times I joined communities run by sysmedicalists. And they would ask "Are you a traumagenic system or an endogenic system?" And I don't have DID or OSDD or any other dissociative disorder, but I'd say yes. Because NPD is a plurality disorder, and those bigots never really thought about that. Nobody's really thought about it. The idea has been picking up a little steam on r/NPD, but for the past two years I thought I was the only one who'd ever figured out NPD causes plurality. But when I introduce the idea to other narcissists, it makes perfect sense to them. Some discover they were repressing plurality, and some already knew they were plural and suddenly start being able to make sense of it.
Plurality is when there's more than one person in a single head. According to sysmedicalists, the only way for that to happen is a traumatic childhood experience that splits the identity into fragments. According to endogenics and their allies, it can also arise naturally or through effort. But I found a third way. Because a narcissist has 0 real people living in their head. They had to create a false persona to live as. And that persona is deeply malleable, and sometimes it's destroyed and the narcissist has to rebuild it. And, anything you can do once, you might end up doing twice. So narcissists often end up creating fake people to co-exist in our heads. They're just as real as the first one, because all of our identities are equally fake. But they are genuine, and they do think and feel and live.