I get how you feel, but the social construct around mobile communication communications started to evolve very quickly, and then mid 90s. I know, because I was there. From when and where and why to call someone on their cell phone, when texting was appropriate, and a lot more stuff on top of that that has continued to evolve even until today.

The social etiquette has evolved, but I also relate to something else that may be affecting you: getting a little older. Not being so “in touch“ with the goings on, that you feel a little bit left behind. I can definitely relate to that.

Every issue you raised in your comment is actively being worked on/improved, it’s just that not everybody is up on the latest ways to deal with all of that. But there are ways to do with that, too.