Soo I kinda need some help here. Ever since I've been working, it's been hard for me to hold a job. For reference, I've been working since I was 16 years old and I am turning 24 this week. I got my license to become an insurance adjuster when I was 19 years old, and have been trying to do that since, plus some other minimum wage stuff during off seasons. Since then I have been fired from multiple adjusting firms, insurance companies, and have walked out of multiple places, to the point where my license almost means nothing because most places know exactly who I am. I under perform, I have to meet people face to face which 90% of the time ends up bad because I'll say things I am absolutely not allowed to be saying, only for the sake of not "feeling awkward" in the moment, which only makes things worse in the present and future (had a gun pulled on me once). I don't really know how to describe it, and I don't know how to stop it. I've tried working with food, but the multiple smells and garbage you have to deal with consistently makes me sick to my stomach and when I go home I throw up for hours at a time. I've tried working in sales, but got fired from there because I hung up on a lady because my brain blanked out when trying to do a sales pitch (mind you, they even gave us a script to read in case that happens but for some reason my brain wouldn't let me say anything). I always tell myself, "oh yeah I won't fuck it up this time, I know what I'm going to not do this time," and then proceed to fuck it up. Like in my mind I know what to do, but I can't execute it. I don't know, am I just lazy?? I sometimes feel like I'm lazy, but sometimes I also feel like I just physically can't do things. I'm really conflicted, and I have a son I need to provide for, which is already hard enough for me. It's hard, and I'm honestly struggling. Mentally, financially, physically. My mom put me on medicine when I was a kid, but it messed with my appetite to the point where I wouldn't eat for multiple weeks at a time, and only ate when I was forced to, so my doctor said no more medicine. This post doesn't even explain all the times and reasons of me being fired and me walking out of jobs (if I explained every single one it would be like 3 more paragraphs the length of this post). Any advice helps. Thank you
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You should really try a medication again. There are ones that don't affect your appetite as bad, and if you literally cannot hold down a job without some sort of external help, your childhood doctor's "medz bad" opinion is no longer valid. See someone who specializes in treating ADHD/autism and get their opinion. Finding the right meds can really be a life changer, it will probably take trying a few different ones, but it's worth it. I would not be able to handle adult life without mine.
In the meantime, it seems like all the jobs (apart from food) that you've struggled with have been customer-facing jobs. My first job was also customer-facing and I hated it. I'm lucky enough to have a college education in a field that lets me work from home, but that isn't an option for everyone. Have you thought about maybe going into a trade? Construction? Electrician? Carpentry? I'm assuming you don't have a degree in a specific field since you didn't mention it, but those jobs tend to have less social interaction (and what social interaction there is is much less consequential if you mess something up)
Finally, I just want to say, you're not lazy. You're obviously trying incredibly hard, because if you were just lazy, you would have given up by now. Having a kid to care for at 24 while also struggling with, frankly, a crippling disability sounds so fucking difficult. Hang in there, man. You'll figure it out, one way or another, I'm sure of it.