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How does anyone believe in monogamy nowadays? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

My wife and I have been married 14 years. I don't think she was "the one" and only woman in the entire world for me, but she is the one who was willing to work with me to build a relationship with each other.

Plus, it's fun to watch her get into things. Shes always trying to learn how to do something. Last year, she tried to grow a garden. It was a sad little thing, and we got a couple of vegetables that we could eat. This year, we set up a bigger plot in the yard, and she used the stuff she learned last year, and she grew so much stuff that we're basically fed for the next few months. We also got some chicks back in February, and we haven't had to buy eggs since June.