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[-] moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

is this some kind of bisexual erasure or is this actually fine

edit: here's a paragraph from wikipedia that explains that I feel weird calling bisexual stuff gay:

It's just easier to say gay than define what exactly you're bi attraction is, especially when you're highlighting experiences that are gay.

[-] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 4 points 2 hours ago

Not erasure; it’s cool. At least, it’s not a deliberate act of self-erasure IME.

Here’s a few of the many reasons bi people sometimes call themselves “gay:”

  1. Simplicity: lots of people lack a mentally distinct category for bi and think of it as a subset of gay, so if you’re bi you learn to sometimes lean into it just to save time.
  2. The bi-cycle: it’s not unusual for bi folk to experience predominantly same-sex attraction for a while. So they might identify more often as gay for that time, especially if they’re in a same sex relationship.
  3. Brand recognition: bi doesn’t have the history that gay does in public discourse. We were usually just called gay. I’ve never heard a pundit talk about “the bi agenda” on daytime television, for example. So gay is sometimes preferred when we’re connecting with that lived experience.

Hope that helps ;)

As a certified bisexual I can confidently say that I feel pretty gay sometimes. Especially when I have gay thoughts or meet someone of the same sex that I find attractive. Idk, what's wrong with calling things what they are?

[-] Drekaridill@lemmy.wtf 3 points 2 hours ago

Where can I get certification? I'd feel better if I had documentation to prove it.

Call up your local chapter of Gay Antifa, Inc.

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