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Being into them is being attracted to them which, on an instinctual level, is wanting to fuck them
Edit: simplified, obviously, you can be attracted to someone in a more emotional way but some would argue that's still wanting to partner with them in some way
I think that's more of an age thing. Im nearly 40 and in a damn near perfect marriage for 15 years now.
We have friends that we absolutely find attractive. Frankly speaking, we all take care of ourselves and it shows.
Im not looking to bang any of them, and my wife isnt either (granted, as she says, but we have a very strong relationship). We're happy being friends, being comfortable going to the beach, hitting the gym together, etc. We're all very happy in our monogamous relationships (minus one couple, because he fucked around and is now in the 'finding out' stage). Life isnt porn?
It sounds like you're more grappling with maturity, and maybe a bit of heartbreak.
I'm confused. Are you saying people who are monogamous aren't allowed to be attracted to other people by your definition? Or are you saying why are people choosing to be monogamous over having multiple partners at the same time?
So what? As you say, is instinctual. As long as you're not drooling and you don't act on it, it's not a problem. And any person demanding otherwise is toxic and not worthy of your time.
Why are you saying so what? You asked a question and I answered
Not really. You pretty much dodged the question.
If I say I'm monogamous, when do you start calling me a liar?
When you say "so and so is hot!" and I don't argue?
When I say "so and so is hot!"?
When I bang so and so without breaking up with my current partner?
I've read this entire thread, and I'm still not entirely sure where you'd draw that line.
Have you heard of people that are asexual, or sapiosexual?
Beyond that, you have to understand that it's very easy to twist numbers in a manipulative way.
For example, it's not 97% of people everywhere don't wait for marriage.
It's 97% of the people who answered whatever survey you're referring to don't wait.
Where the fuck did they get these people from? College? Nightclubs? Any religious organization?
Statistics are not fact. They are ways of organizing data that would otherwise be overwhelming and impossible to parse.