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How does anyone believe in monogamy nowadays? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So, I started dating before the internet. Yeah yeah, I’m old, I know. Anyway, I always had this feeling of what if my partner finds someone better?

Now with the internet people from all over the world are at your fingertips. Now, I feel like “this person could literally be with anyone in the world, but they chose to be with me”.

But, also, in it’s most basic form a relationship is a situation where you find someone, and decide that you can put up with their bullshit, and hope they feel the same. I’m old enough, and have dated enough to know. All those people that you think are hot. Do gross ass shit behind closed doors, or some embarrassing ass shit.

So, maybe you put up with her always wanting you to hang out with her while she poops. Meanwhile she puts up with your god awful laugh. Y’all do this because you know it can be so much worse, and besides the sex is good, and they have good taste in whatever interests y’all share.

And for those of you that say I don’t do gross, or embarrassing stuff. Either you’re lying or delusional. We may call ourselves “humans” to make ourselves feel better, but we are disgusting animals that have to learn how to act, and most of the time the training is incomplete.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Now with the internet people from all over the world are at your fingertips.

That only means more people to mock you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Hehehe

I’ve been a house husband for the past almost 10 years. I get paid to cook, clean, take care of kids, and play video games. If I leave she’s stuck with a special needs kid all alone.

On the other side. I haven’t worked in almost 10 years so my resume is lacking. So, we definitely have reasons to stay together, and not fuck it up, but our situation isn’t typical.