I would encourage you to stop posting for a bit and just browse the site for a few days to see how folks generally engage with each other here. In doing so I think you'll come to your own understanding of what wrecking is. Hexbear is a very friendly space but you do have to really try to understand the community and the space to understand how that friendliness manifests. It's okay if you do that inspection and realize Hexbear isn't for you.