First my specific questions, down below more info:

• how do you use ansible? Is there a good source for roles or playbooks to set up services? I feel like ansible is 30% more headache right now during config.
• how do you deal with motivation loss?
• how do you deal with the overwhelming amount of choices and information and disciplines (networking, storage, VMS, Linux..) that comes with selfhosting?
• how do you find the sweetspot between ease of use, ease of set up, security, redundancy? I feel like I am maybe too pranaoid to loose my data again (dropped a hard drive many years back, I lost all of my projects)
• maybe overall, how do you manage your perfectionism?

Thanks a lot! I hope you have some insights for me.

More info

Soo I have a motivational push to work on my server every few months for a few weeks or months. I always make progress and I feel like I landed on a good solution by now. Its the third time I redid my setup, everytime I got closet to what feels like the perfect setup for me.

I have a vps for headscale, a home server with proxmox for the rest.

Last push I switched from manually configuring and documenting to ansible. I like ansible, but its also a pain and not as fast to set up my server as just installing it and fiddeling around manually until it works.

My problem is: I want to do it right, so my server is robut with enough redundancy to move all my cloud stuff to it. But I am still kind of a noob and still learning and figuring things out.

My fear is, that if i don't document well or not use ansible, I will be hating my life once my server dies and I have to restore my data and also set um my services again in a few years.

So ansible seems like the only valid choice here, together with proxmox to be as flexible and future proof. But I am burnt out again and lost Motivation even though I am close to my first goals and running services.

Thank you for reading :)