Yeah dude. It’s sad, but sometimes a kid is just dangerous to other people. There’s no amount of reason or gentleness that can help.
My son is special needs, has/had violent episodes. While this statement might be true, I just can't agree. I may have given up my career to sit in therapist offices, but I believe every troubled kid deserves a shot. With enough love (and meds and coping skills) one can overcome the sheer angst that lives inside them.
I have absolutely had to 'hold' my own child at the school in years past. Shits not for the weak, but I've watched him overcome this, and is becoming more successful each year. With enough support, these kids can be successful. The truth is, the parents also need support, and they often don't have it themselves, so it compounds into deeming the child a lost cause.
I hate when what should happen, doesn't become what is. But no child is irredeemable. That's how I feel.