Who are the members of your chosen families? (lemmy.ml)

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-I'm on a Discord server composed with people i know since a dozen years. Despite some heavy drama, this is the most perennial community i've ever frequented. We care heavily for eachother and they know some thing i never told to my own mother. We were first on a discussion forum then moved to discord when the site linked to the forum died.

-My sister's friends. She is so close to them that they all became mine.

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[-] cosmicrookie@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

I have come to grips with the fact that I am not capable of maintaining relationships like this. I have no one close to me like this or even casually close. Honestly though, after so many years of failing, not at making friends but at keeping them, I have come to terms that it is not natural for me to have them.

I am very good at making friends but I lose interest after some time and it feels like a burden to keep up the friendship. I am perfectly fine without them though so I can't see why I should keep trying.

Maybe it's a condition... Maybe I'm born with it 🤷

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