It sometimes creates queerness as an option rather than a core part of an experience
Because, surprise surprise, most non-romance games don't have romance as significant part of the game. You don't get straight tailored experience in Skyrim either. Unless you believe killing bandits or mammoths is how you romance a straight person.
kind of a cop out
This mentality is why so many gamers outside the homophobic conservative circles are pissed at game developers and groups like Sweet Baby Inc. Not cramming gender politics into a game that has nothing to do with them is not a cop out. It is good game design. Skyrim is not a romance simulator and it shouldn't be turned into one just to "be more inclusive".