and want your games to not make you feel uncomfortable.
You are missing the point entirely. Playing as a homosexual character did not make me feel uncomfortable, even though I understand if it did for some people. Even so, not every game is for everyone. It is fine to have games focused at different audiences.
But when you hand over writing your game characters and story to groups like SBI, whose only qualification is "inclusive writing", than it destroys games for everyone and you get entirely justified backlash from gamers.
Same if you take an established franchise and change the target audience.
Unfortunately, just like you don't make distinction between the actual homophobes and people who just want good writing and game design, a lot of gamers once pissed of don't distinguish between good inclusion and forced, badly executed one. And than you get the polarized BS of today.