▲ 562 ▼ Anon tries to meet girls at college (sh.itjust.works) submitted 1 year ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works 149 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 190 points 1 year ago* (7 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source hideshow 14 child comments replies: [–] Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 67 points 1 year ago (2 children) I wonder if he'll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 43 points 1 year ago Nah, he'll blame it all on wokism. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 22 points 1 year ago I'm sad to say that I wouldn't bet on it... permalink fedilink source parent [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 54 points 1 year ago (3 children) Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn't played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn't played it he'd speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven't played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn't even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 child) You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He's pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can't just talk at you. We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I'll do my best, but I didn't get better at this till my late twenties. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 8 points 1 year ago It's good parenting to be aware of that sort of thing, but as you seem to guess I wouldn't worry too much. Kids are kind of just like that. I have a 13 yr old in my life right now and she is pretty similar, so I think it's healthy. The last thing we want to do as adults is make them feel small or like their thoughts and interests don't matter. For what it's worth I don't mind talkers, it really is just about place/time/topic. I'm sure he'll make it through. I hear encouraging questions about others helps, "thank you for asking"/"what a great question" etc. but I don't know if it really helps so much as is something we do in the interim to feel like we're helping while they just mature in the background. Seems like you're on top of it though. Best of luck to you both! permalink fedilink source parent [–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 child) Man that reminds me a lot of the game, oh I forget the name of it, but it had some vowels in the name, where you go in thinking the point is to kick a lot of butts and towers but it turns out the real point of the game is getting your ass kicked and having your team yell at you. Like this one time I was playing and wanted to try this annoying character that bugged the hell out of me when others played him. Can't remember the name but he'd go like "ahhhhh" and then you'd be slow and couldn't use abilities even if you ran away and the ground would do this explody thing. Doesn't that sound soooo annoying? Anyways, I decided to try playing as this guy but I kept just dying instead of annoying the other team. I see you want to say something but shut up for a bit, I'm not done yet. So then I decided to try jungling. No, not juggling, I mean fighting the guys in the jungle. That way, I don't keep giving gold and xp to the other team when I repeatedly die, except for a few times when I accidentally thought their base was the jungle. Anyways, we should play some games after we have sex at the end of the date. If you brought a gaming laptop, at least. If not, you can watch me play or give me a bj while I play or something so it's fun for you, too. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 9 points 1 year ago The cringe is so real. I had a guy bring his gaming laptop to a third date at my place. I was super into him and we went to my bedroom and he just set up his laptop. I could not pull him away from showing me his cool single player gaming collection. It's my fault because I kept going out with guys I met at cons. After the third time you think I'd learn my lesson but I didn't stop until poly became more pervasive and I ended up on dates with people who just forgot to mention that. I don't mind poly but you should be upfront about it. So glad I don't have to date anymore. It's an absolute disaster out there. Best of luck to everyone still doing it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenkard@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* I had a coworker which just talked about Destiny just like you said. It was the main thing you'd hear from him, and he would just talk about the plays he did. I don't even play Destiny... People just started avoid talking to him permalink fedilink source parent [–] HexadecimalSky@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago OH this instantly reminded me of some people, of which one person who's small talk of choice before and after lectures was what a turn on blood letting was, in that class there was also a chick who went to someones house in the forest to see the kitten they just got. without knowing thier name because they just met them (is it meet if you know 0% about someone except they live in the forest and have a cat at the end of "meeting" them)...it is almost surprising they have not been assaulted more. permalink fedilink source parent [–] blarghly@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago (1 child) I mean, girls have boobs, so they must like to talk about them, right? Right??? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago Some of them do, but best not to assume so! permalink fedilink source parent [–] FatTony@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Based. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) This reminded me of this date I went on with a girl in college. I don't remember exactly what she said, but she talked about how she killed her pet hamster for a while when she was younger. I don't remember how, but it wasn't an accident IIRC. It's fair to say there wasn't a second date. Lol. permalink fedilink source parent [–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Simplest explanation is he wanted you to leave him alone permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 67 points 1 year ago (2 children) I wonder if he'll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 43 points 1 year ago Nah, he'll blame it all on wokism. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 22 points 1 year ago I'm sad to say that I wouldn't bet on it... permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 43 points 1 year ago Nah, he'll blame it all on wokism. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 22 points 1 year ago I'm sad to say that I wouldn't bet on it... permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 54 points 1 year ago (3 children) Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn't played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn't played it he'd speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven't played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn't even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 child) You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He's pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can't just talk at you. We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I'll do my best, but I didn't get better at this till my late twenties. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 8 points 1 year ago It's good parenting to be aware of that sort of thing, but as you seem to guess I wouldn't worry too much. Kids are kind of just like that. I have a 13 yr old in my life right now and she is pretty similar, so I think it's healthy. The last thing we want to do as adults is make them feel small or like their thoughts and interests don't matter. For what it's worth I don't mind talkers, it really is just about place/time/topic. I'm sure he'll make it through. I hear encouraging questions about others helps, "thank you for asking"/"what a great question" etc. but I don't know if it really helps so much as is something we do in the interim to feel like we're helping while they just mature in the background. Seems like you're on top of it though. Best of luck to you both! permalink fedilink source parent [–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 child) Man that reminds me a lot of the game, oh I forget the name of it, but it had some vowels in the name, where you go in thinking the point is to kick a lot of butts and towers but it turns out the real point of the game is getting your ass kicked and having your team yell at you. Like this one time I was playing and wanted to try this annoying character that bugged the hell out of me when others played him. Can't remember the name but he'd go like "ahhhhh" and then you'd be slow and couldn't use abilities even if you ran away and the ground would do this explody thing. Doesn't that sound soooo annoying? Anyways, I decided to try playing as this guy but I kept just dying instead of annoying the other team. I see you want to say something but shut up for a bit, I'm not done yet. So then I decided to try jungling. No, not juggling, I mean fighting the guys in the jungle. That way, I don't keep giving gold and xp to the other team when I repeatedly die, except for a few times when I accidentally thought their base was the jungle. Anyways, we should play some games after we have sex at the end of the date. If you brought a gaming laptop, at least. If not, you can watch me play or give me a bj while I play or something so it's fun for you, too. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 9 points 1 year ago The cringe is so real. I had a guy bring his gaming laptop to a third date at my place. I was super into him and we went to my bedroom and he just set up his laptop. I could not pull him away from showing me his cool single player gaming collection. It's my fault because I kept going out with guys I met at cons. After the third time you think I'd learn my lesson but I didn't stop until poly became more pervasive and I ended up on dates with people who just forgot to mention that. I don't mind poly but you should be upfront about it. So glad I don't have to date anymore. It's an absolute disaster out there. Best of luck to everyone still doing it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenkard@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* I had a coworker which just talked about Destiny just like you said. It was the main thing you'd hear from him, and he would just talk about the plays he did. I don't even play Destiny... People just started avoid talking to him permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 child) You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He's pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can't just talk at you. We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I'll do my best, but I didn't get better at this till my late twenties. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 8 points 1 year ago It's good parenting to be aware of that sort of thing, but as you seem to guess I wouldn't worry too much. Kids are kind of just like that. I have a 13 yr old in my life right now and she is pretty similar, so I think it's healthy. The last thing we want to do as adults is make them feel small or like their thoughts and interests don't matter. For what it's worth I don't mind talkers, it really is just about place/time/topic. I'm sure he'll make it through. I hear encouraging questions about others helps, "thank you for asking"/"what a great question" etc. but I don't know if it really helps so much as is something we do in the interim to feel like we're helping while they just mature in the background. Seems like you're on top of it though. Best of luck to you both! permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 8 points 1 year ago It's good parenting to be aware of that sort of thing, but as you seem to guess I wouldn't worry too much. Kids are kind of just like that. I have a 13 yr old in my life right now and she is pretty similar, so I think it's healthy. The last thing we want to do as adults is make them feel small or like their thoughts and interests don't matter. For what it's worth I don't mind talkers, it really is just about place/time/topic. I'm sure he'll make it through. I hear encouraging questions about others helps, "thank you for asking"/"what a great question" etc. but I don't know if it really helps so much as is something we do in the interim to feel like we're helping while they just mature in the background. Seems like you're on top of it though. Best of luck to you both! permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 child) Man that reminds me a lot of the game, oh I forget the name of it, but it had some vowels in the name, where you go in thinking the point is to kick a lot of butts and towers but it turns out the real point of the game is getting your ass kicked and having your team yell at you. Like this one time I was playing and wanted to try this annoying character that bugged the hell out of me when others played him. Can't remember the name but he'd go like "ahhhhh" and then you'd be slow and couldn't use abilities even if you ran away and the ground would do this explody thing. Doesn't that sound soooo annoying? Anyways, I decided to try playing as this guy but I kept just dying instead of annoying the other team. I see you want to say something but shut up for a bit, I'm not done yet. So then I decided to try jungling. No, not juggling, I mean fighting the guys in the jungle. That way, I don't keep giving gold and xp to the other team when I repeatedly die, except for a few times when I accidentally thought their base was the jungle. Anyways, we should play some games after we have sex at the end of the date. If you brought a gaming laptop, at least. If not, you can watch me play or give me a bj while I play or something so it's fun for you, too. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 9 points 1 year ago The cringe is so real. I had a guy bring his gaming laptop to a third date at my place. I was super into him and we went to my bedroom and he just set up his laptop. I could not pull him away from showing me his cool single player gaming collection. It's my fault because I kept going out with guys I met at cons. After the third time you think I'd learn my lesson but I didn't stop until poly became more pervasive and I ended up on dates with people who just forgot to mention that. I don't mind poly but you should be upfront about it. So glad I don't have to date anymore. It's an absolute disaster out there. Best of luck to everyone still doing it. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 9 points 1 year ago The cringe is so real. I had a guy bring his gaming laptop to a third date at my place. I was super into him and we went to my bedroom and he just set up his laptop. I could not pull him away from showing me his cool single player gaming collection. It's my fault because I kept going out with guys I met at cons. After the third time you think I'd learn my lesson but I didn't stop until poly became more pervasive and I ended up on dates with people who just forgot to mention that. I don't mind poly but you should be upfront about it. So glad I don't have to date anymore. It's an absolute disaster out there. Best of luck to everyone still doing it. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Tenkard@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* I had a coworker which just talked about Destiny just like you said. It was the main thing you'd hear from him, and he would just talk about the plays he did. I don't even play Destiny... People just started avoid talking to him permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HexadecimalSky@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago OH this instantly reminded me of some people, of which one person who's small talk of choice before and after lectures was what a turn on blood letting was, in that class there was also a chick who went to someones house in the forest to see the kitten they just got. without knowing thier name because they just met them (is it meet if you know 0% about someone except they live in the forest and have a cat at the end of "meeting" them)...it is almost surprising they have not been assaulted more. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago (1 child) I mean, girls have boobs, so they must like to talk about them, right? Right??? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago Some of them do, but best not to assume so! permalink fedilink source parent
[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago Some of them do, but best not to assume so! permalink fedilink source parent
[–] FatTony@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Based. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) This reminded me of this date I went on with a girl in college. I don't remember exactly what she said, but she talked about how she killed her pet hamster for a while when she was younger. I don't remember how, but it wasn't an accident IIRC. It's fair to say there wasn't a second date. Lol. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Simplest explanation is he wanted you to leave him alone permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
