Is there like a cheat code for dating apps? (lemmy.zip)

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32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they've gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you're an average looking man?

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[-] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm.

I feel like there's actual empirical evidence I've seen of that. Great engagement-drivers, though, and never getting you into a serious relationship helps keep you a customer/product.

People are getting savvy to it now, and completely moving away from online dating. We'll see if non-shit services make a comeback.

Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking.

I mean, irl is the eventual goal, right? The online part is, at best, a better way of picking who to date.

Otherwise, online roleplaying might push all the buttons you need. Or therapy, if you want to handle your anxiety better.

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