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this post was submitted on 04 Jun 2025
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After therapy
I relate heavily to the OP. Especially the past couple of days. I always just seem to get in trouble for just existing the wrong way... particularly at work.
What am I supposed to even talk about in therapy? I've tried it numerous times over the past several years, and I don't know what the fuck to say. And then when I do try to say something, the therapist latches onto some simpler and more obvious issue that I don't care about OR just ignores my concerns altogether.
I think therapy seems to work out better if you have one obvious, specific problem. Like I knew someone who was having panic attacks. Therapy helped her. I knew someone who was hallucinating and cutting herself. Medications combined with therapy helped her.
But if I don't have the one specific obvious problem, then both myself and therapists seem to get lost and the resulting sessions are ineffective .
What are you feeling that you don't want to struggle with anymore? Is it guilt? Is it feeling in the way? Is it an unnamable negative? If it's the last one then you can probably do some work surrounding labelling your emotions, so that you can then apply logic to them- do they fit the current situation? Or no?
Finding a good therapist is like dating. You might not jive with everyone, and that's ok! It sounds like you would do well with one who either a) is cool with you coming to the session with a goal or who b) helps you set a goal for each session at the beginning. It sounds like your previous therapists weren't meeting your goals, but it doesn't mean it isn't worthwhile.
I'm sorry that you feel like you're getting in trouble often. I hope this feeling passes soon.