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My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? (jlai.lu)
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My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

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[–] -1 points 1 year ago (1 child)

Nah. Im allowed to do whatever I want.

And I want to call out people for excusing an affair. The dad could have done it the right way, like an actual adult. Asking for a divorce is hard, but immeasurably easier emotionally to the person you make a commitment to than sneaking around and finally getting caught WITH YOUR ASSISTANT

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    No one is excusing an affair. People are merely trying to help OOP navigate an emotionally complex situation: wanting to keep contact with their father despite the circumstances, and wondering if their mother's actions are justifiable or not.

    You can do whatever you want, but that does not absolve you of consequences.

    I only gave you genuine advice, taking breaks/disengaging is helpful. I cannot force you, ofcourse, there's only so much I can do.

    So please consider above, and have a nice day

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