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At first, Luu felt okay with the situation. Her relationship was the healthiest one she’d ever been in, and “we just felt like we were married from the get-go,” she says. They combined finances, and Luu took on more of the household chores. But as time went on, her feelings changed. “I love keeping a clean space, I love cooking, and I love doing the homely duties. But after a while of being the only person contributing [to the housework], it’s like, Damn, if I was making money, I could just be doing this on my own and not have to take care of someone else,” she says. “But you know, he was contributing financially. So then it’s like, How can I speak on that? That internal conflict just got stressful.”

People with common sense probably know this already, but the right wing obsession with "trad wife" or "stay at home mom" often do not work in real life.

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

On one hand, I like the way the article ends. On the other hand, I’m amazed that people need to be told these things.

“I know that not everyone’s gonna agree with me, but I want all women to be financially independent,” she says. “We live in America. Last I checked, it’s a capitalist society. If you don’t have money, you can’t do anything.”

YES. Don’t set yourself up to be a victim. Also, remember that if you’re unmarried but living off your partner, you have NO safety net. Working at the grocery store is nobody’s dream job, but at least it’s something. One of the defining characteristics of adulthood is being able to live independently. That needs to take priority over being in a relationship.

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