Yep, 41 woman here, and it's only in the last 5 years or so that I've realised that my fidgeting (stimming), pretending to be normal (masking), and being unable to cope when environments are visually busy and noisy (overstimulation), are real things that have actual names.

But hey, I achieved good grades and wasn't disruptive, so what did it matter that I was falling apart inside and had to spend many years and many tears developing strategies for a world that exhausts me?