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What to do about my friend? (24F)(24F) (lemmy.ml)
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I posted about my friend once, Jaiden. Just for background or recap, I encountered Jaiden on a post about abusive parents. We chatted in the DMs of Reddit and became friends on Discord.

Jaiden has a lot of disabilities, including autism, C-PTSD, and ADHD. She has dealt with a lot of trauma in her life. Plus, she is a trans lesbian sheltered from the world. She is seen as a guy with transphobic and homophobic parents who are narcissistic/have NPD.

She has been traumatized in other ways that I will not name. However, despite not having resources and being very poor and sheltered, she is very ambitious. She constantly vents to me and others, so much so, that others have left her besides me, and has a whole list of things she wants to accomplish.

She wants to become very rich, talented, and good at everything. She also wants God to fear her, she said. She wants to become better than everyone else so that everyone will idolize her and become impressed.

When I question how realistic it’d be, she lashes out at me, but when I go along with it, she gets mad at me for believing in her and keeps asking me why I believe so much.

She believes she’s some sort of hero, which she might be. She has dealt with so much trauma, plus, she says she wants to become a celebrity and that her friends are celebrities or well-known.

What do you think of her information and how can I help?

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

For one, the lashing out will wear you down and change you.

The other thing is that I have a hunch your effort might as well be turned against you. You will put in effort of helping a person you can not help and will likely also be hurt.

I appreciate your effort of wanting to help. But this is out of your league except if you're a trained professional.

This might sound very unspecific to you. But imagine someone juggling too many knives and you're trying to catch them (untrained), you'll both get hurt.

There are red flags all over the place. We can go into details but it's not worth it since literally every detail might be completely different than you're aware of and the whole bunch of it is just a huge warning to keep yourself safe.

EVEN if she means well and all is true it does not mean you are not in (psychological) danger.

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