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Messy story, I'll do my best to lay it out in a reasonable way:
For my mom and stepdad, it was the kidnapping tied with lifetime of neglect and abuse.
And I call it kidnapping because that's what it was, even though there wasn't really a good law against it, because basically they moved, they did not tell my dad or my dad's side of the family where they had moved to, or leave any contact information.
From the time I was 6 until I was 13 and I went behind my mom's back and tracked down my grandmother, I had no contact with that side of my family.
Then my mom had the gall to go after my dad for unpaid child support during the seven years where he could not track me down or locate me and spent countless sleepless nights worrying about me, wondering where I was.
As for my dad, he was actually a pretty decent person, but he was also very much a Disney dad. I did not get an awful lot of interaction with him in my childhood, (thanks to said kidnapping), but even once we reconnected when I was a teenager his job and my mom made it so that he basically didn't see me but maybe once a year, if that, until I was an adult.
Despite my hatred of my mother, once I was an adult I had cut her off and hadn't seen her for four or five years and my dad said, you only get one mother. I'd really appreciate it if you still spent time with her and saw her.
So I put my hatred to the side and tried to reconnect with my mom, which wasn't good, but was manageable until my dad died from Covid, and my mom sent me a slew of angry text messages over why my younger half sister, her bastard daughter, whom she conceived by cheating on my father, which was the impetus for their divorce in the first place, wasn't included in my father's memorial page which was made by my stepmom who had been my stepmom for like 30 years.
I cussed her the fuck out and I haven't talked to her since.
I blocked her ability to text message me, because I don't want to fucking talk to her, so she has gone out of her way to get new phone numbers, to occasionally message me and send me TikToks about how she doesn't know what to say to me (apparently, she's never heard of the concept of an apology or admitting you're wrong when your actions have hurt somebody), and to send me Amazon gift cards for my birthday when I don't fucking shop at Amazon because they're a shit tier company.