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Is it? Fucking where? And how? Because all the people I know I've met through dating apps up, online forums, or knew them from school or uni. I have plenty of hobbies, but there aren't any even vaguely related groups for them, and if they are, they aren't very discoverable.
How do you not meet people? Even if you're stuck in front of a computer all day you can go out to a pub or something at the weekend. Put yourself in a social environment and be friendly. It sounds like you even have experience of that from school and uni.
People at the pub don't talk to strangers, bruh, pls tell me your so-called "advice" isn't to literally just harass random stranger groups just having a day out at the pub. As an extraverted person please don't do that, that's gonna get the cops called on ye sooner or later, most of us are just being polite.
At school you are in forced social situations where you have to bond to "survive" (ask for advice/help to pass classes), less at uni, but it still helps. That's why the friends I have from there I'm honestly relatively distant with because we don't actually have much in common except past shared experience.
I do meet people plenty, all initially online though, not IRL. Dating apps have been where I met most of my friends.
I'm in the US with no car (and not in a city), and don't drink. No idea on anything that could even be mistaken for a social environment, especially when it requires money.
I mean yeah I'm also not wired for that, so add in other issues/oddities and that's just how it is I guess.
What do other people in your area do?
From what I see from family, it probably involves drinking or travel/expenses beyond me (also, with their existing connections). Though these days if it's not work or shopping they probably are staying home more often than not.
I ride my bike on a multi-use trail, but given the sparse area not good odds to meet anyone due to multiple reasons.