I am not looking for validation from you, as it is obvious from the start you aren't interested in empathizing with a man, please stop talking to me like you just finished your BA in Psych or Social Work and are talking to a troubled teen.

You are intentionally playing dumb and trying to psychoanalyze me, to avoid addressing the actual totality of what I have said.

This is disrespectful.

It is a fairly basic and well understood fact that men tend to value respect and perceptions of being respected significantly more than women, on average.

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I said what I said as a direct response to your response, to being asked:

'What are men supposed to do with this besides feel bad?'

Your response was essentially:

Men shouldn't feel bad about this.

and

Be an ally to women.

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Ok, so...

For the first part, you are just outright denying men the capacity or right to ... feel a certain way, express emotions about an experience they had.

This is fundamentally at odds with the conception of tearing down the enforced gender normativity of patriarchy, a huge element of which is men stuffing down their emotions, being told when and how and what they're allowed to have emotions about, which is generally: suck it up buttercup, your feelings don't matter, your emotions are not valid.

You are directly mandating all men abide by this rule.

You are directly enforcing the patriarchy, toxic masculinity.

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For the second part,

I've been an ally to women (and many others) for 20 years.

Call that my sense of honor.

So have many other men.

I gave you an anecdote, a case study of one, my lived experience of how that worked out for me.

It didn't work for me personally, and it isn't working at a broader societal scale either.

The 'gender wars' are intsensifying, male incel edgelord culture got a fascist kleptocracy elected to run the US government, more and more marriages are failing and more and more young adults have never had a serious relationship of any kind, nor even a sexual partner... and all of this is fueling a ... 'return to the Handmaid's tale' wave of politics and policies that massively infringe upon the rights of women.

Your strategy is not working.

It is not producing an inclusive, more understanding, more empathetic, more tolerant or more patient culture.

It is producing the opposite.

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'Blame all men' is your message, your strategy, distilled into a slogan. Be wary of all of them, all the time, you never know which one could hurt you.

A more sound strategy would not alienate allies, it would be more specific, targeted, with actually useful heuristics or rules that can be practically applied so as to actually be able to discern the difference between likely ally and likely foe.

What needs to be happening is the development of a constructive dialogue... not a hardening and intensifying of recalcitrance.

... Unless your goal actually is to escalate tensions.

Sorry, got that whole Anarchist thing going on, a system's purpose is what it ultimately does, not what it claims to do.