If you measure success as fitting the preferences of a white supremacist society, you cannot win. For example, the people who cozy up to powerful whites and repeat their reactionary thoughts are still not truly accepted by them.

To win you've gotta care about what cool people think, not white supremacists. Cool people will not care how stereotypical you are except to maybe ask you to tone it down if something seems like it perpetuates something harmful. Like it's fine to like something stereotypically Asian, don't sweat it one bit. You can like things!