▲ 339 ▼ I do what I want (lemmy.ml) submitted 2 years ago by cm0002@lemmy.world to c/memes@lemmy.world 15 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] comador@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (1 child) It absolutely can help, but it also depends on the individual and everything else going on in your life. Source: Parent of 3; two in college, one in high school. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 14 points 2 years ago (1 child) Not really. Judge for yourself, and follow the legit studies. If you’re already happy, in a good relationship, and in a country (not the US) that heavily supports parenthood, and you’re the father, then at least you might break even. (tl:dr) “Parents will always be quick to proclaim the gifts and blessings their children provide, but a more detached appraisal calls into question this conventional wisdom.” https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-having-children-make-people-happier-in-the-long-run permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] comador@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) Even your own link reiterated everything I said: It depends on the individual and everything else going on in ones life. You live in a child oppressive society like Asia or the United States? No shit it's harder to be happier than without children Income, society, your partner, your parents and more importantly: your own ability to endure the ups and downs of it all matter when it comes to your respective happiness as a parent. But it comes down to the individual and it's each individual's choice, period. I am in America, but I also married into a minority group who is immensely supportive. No question my life feels more enriched having had children because I love being with the family my wife and I created. Sorry, for the late response, I was enjoying my weekend and my life. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago This post stated “…as depressed as me” that implies they are looking for kids to pull them out of some level of depression. That’s a terrible strategy for everyone involved, but especially the kids. If this was your chosen depression coping strategy three times over, PLUS in the US, I guess good for you, but generally speaking it’s not supported by broad societal studies. The article I chose was just a quick search, but there are quite a number of studies that support not using childbirth as a mental health coping mechanism. You sound a bit defensive and passive aggressive to me. I hope you are truly, deeply fulfilled and are just having an off day. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 14 points 2 years ago (1 child) Not really. Judge for yourself, and follow the legit studies. If you’re already happy, in a good relationship, and in a country (not the US) that heavily supports parenthood, and you’re the father, then at least you might break even. (tl:dr) “Parents will always be quick to proclaim the gifts and blessings their children provide, but a more detached appraisal calls into question this conventional wisdom.” https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-having-children-make-people-happier-in-the-long-run permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] comador@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) Even your own link reiterated everything I said: It depends on the individual and everything else going on in ones life. You live in a child oppressive society like Asia or the United States? No shit it's harder to be happier than without children Income, society, your partner, your parents and more importantly: your own ability to endure the ups and downs of it all matter when it comes to your respective happiness as a parent. But it comes down to the individual and it's each individual's choice, period. I am in America, but I also married into a minority group who is immensely supportive. No question my life feels more enriched having had children because I love being with the family my wife and I created. Sorry, for the late response, I was enjoying my weekend and my life. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago This post stated “…as depressed as me” that implies they are looking for kids to pull them out of some level of depression. That’s a terrible strategy for everyone involved, but especially the kids. If this was your chosen depression coping strategy three times over, PLUS in the US, I guess good for you, but generally speaking it’s not supported by broad societal studies. The article I chose was just a quick search, but there are quite a number of studies that support not using childbirth as a mental health coping mechanism. You sound a bit defensive and passive aggressive to me. I hope you are truly, deeply fulfilled and are just having an off day. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] comador@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) Even your own link reiterated everything I said: It depends on the individual and everything else going on in ones life. You live in a child oppressive society like Asia or the United States? No shit it's harder to be happier than without children Income, society, your partner, your parents and more importantly: your own ability to endure the ups and downs of it all matter when it comes to your respective happiness as a parent. But it comes down to the individual and it's each individual's choice, period. I am in America, but I also married into a minority group who is immensely supportive. No question my life feels more enriched having had children because I love being with the family my wife and I created. Sorry, for the late response, I was enjoying my weekend and my life. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago This post stated “…as depressed as me” that implies they are looking for kids to pull them out of some level of depression. That’s a terrible strategy for everyone involved, but especially the kids. If this was your chosen depression coping strategy three times over, PLUS in the US, I guess good for you, but generally speaking it’s not supported by broad societal studies. The article I chose was just a quick search, but there are quite a number of studies that support not using childbirth as a mental health coping mechanism. You sound a bit defensive and passive aggressive to me. I hope you are truly, deeply fulfilled and are just having an off day. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago This post stated “…as depressed as me” that implies they are looking for kids to pull them out of some level of depression. That’s a terrible strategy for everyone involved, but especially the kids. If this was your chosen depression coping strategy three times over, PLUS in the US, I guess good for you, but generally speaking it’s not supported by broad societal studies. The article I chose was just a quick search, but there are quite a number of studies that support not using childbirth as a mental health coping mechanism. You sound a bit defensive and passive aggressive to me. I hope you are truly, deeply fulfilled and are just having an off day. permalink fedilink source parent
