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How did a simple phone call become so problematic? (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 years ago by to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
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[–] 22 points 2 years ago (24 children)

Why though?

What is so hard about getting a call and talking to someone?

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  • [–] 15 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    I check my texts. I check my email. I check my DM. When I want to.

    YOU choose when the call happens.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    And ignoring the call or turn DND on isn't an option? No judgement, just curious.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    That would be the mitigation to the problem, yes. But I'm describing why it's a problem in the first place.

    You can't say "calls aren't that bad because you can do everything possibly to avoid them.". I'm avoiding them because they're that bad.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    Well yeah, because I need to talk to you

    People have been doing this without problems for decades, why is it a problem now if it wasn't 10-20 years ago?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    When better options arise, people can start to dislike the old options.

    Why do I not like washing dishes by hand? It wasn't a problem 30 years ago. For example.

    Now you'll say it WAS a problem and they invented dishwashers to fix it. And I'll say they invented texting to fix phone calls.

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  • [+] 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 child)
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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    That is stuff that people have been doing for decades already.

    I'm a developer (amongst other things) and when I'm busy I need 20-30 mins too to get in the stream of thoughts. I simply close the door, puty phone on DND, and I'm off.

    Messages are just as distracting as phone calls

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    It gets easier the more you do it like most things.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Disagree. Part of my job entails calling people (and I even started at a phone helpdesk 20 years ago) and I still despise and loathe calling on the phone with people I don't know for making appointments or getting quotes. To the point it will probably impact my health since my dentist only takes appointments by phone. (Before my sister in law worked there so I could DM her to ask her directly)

    Exposure doesn't always make it easier.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    That sounds like you have a mental health problem.

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  • [–] -3 points 2 years ago*

    So, you agree that the statement that it gets easier with exposure is nonsense? Or do you mean to say that every one who disagree has mental health issues? Because you're talking about a decently large chunk of people here.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    But why?

    Why is it so hard for you to talk to someone, to the point that it will negatively affect your health?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    I can talk to people fine, though I don't enjoy doing it with strangers at random places. I just hate phone calls. It's not entirely rational, no doubt, though I still object to the silly stupid remark it's "mental illness".

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Because it forces you to drop everything out of nowhere, losing all the focus you may have had. And then you might need to hold the phone, you need to find a place where you don't annoy everyone around you, and so you basically cannot look up anything.

    Text is much superior imo, and messages can be answered whenever convenient (depending on urgency). But even people talking in real life are much better than a call. You can see them coming, you keep your hands free and a can usually stay where you are, they're way better to understand than shitty call quality.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    I've said this elsewhere but...

    First DND is there to stop people from bugging you when you're busy.

    Second, people have been doing this for decades without problems, why is it a problem now?

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    The "talking to someone" part.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    What is the problem with that?

    If talking to people is a problem for you then I'd argue that you're the problem, not obine calls. Not meant in a mean way, just saying that if you're not able to have a normal conversation with another human being, you maybe want to look into professional mental health support

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