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Young adult, novice queer. Made a post on Tumblr about how I was tired of both gay users bashing ace people, but also ace users bashing gay people, and I was done with both communities. For context, Tumblr users in this era looooooved to dunk on posts about lesbian sex and I was sick of it.
Older mutual who's opinion I really cared about sent me a long DM about how I'm not ace anymore, and how "that's nice for you, but real people can't change their sexuality," before ripping into unrelated aspects of my character.
I've technically been treated worse especially as a child, but that one stands out because I liked him. :( And it made me paranoid about being queer "wrong" if people weren't allowed to change their label.
How long ago was this? I'm so sorry about all that :(
Thanks <3 it's OK, it has to be around a decade now. It just came to mind as the worst experience because in hindsight it was so stupid to torment me so much. "Oh no I offended the guy who thinks his sexual orientation is thinking gay people are gross ๐ฅบ"