I've been waiting until after Christmas day to make this post, but some of our communities recently have had a lot of noise and upset over someone that uses neopronouns that most people are unfamiliar with.
So I want to make this clear. A persons pronouns are to be respected. This is true when the user is using neopronouns that you're unfamiliar with. It's true even if you think someone is trolling. Pronouns are not rewards for good behaviour. They aren't only to be respected when you like the person you're interacting with, or if their pronouns "make sense" to you. Trolls, spammers, twitter users, it doesn't matter who they are, your options are to respect their pronouns, or to not engage with them.
I really want to re-iterate the importance of this. Gender diverse folk are undermined, invalidated and questioned at every step of our lives. As a community, we need to be working to undo that, not creating more of it, and that means there is no space for treating pronouns (including neopronouns) as a reward for good behaviour.
This isn't a free reign for trolls and spammers. The rules still apply. Trolling, spamming, etc will continue to be dealt with, but it's not an excuse to act as if respecting someones pronouns is optional.
That’s a fair problem, Lemmy and the mobile apps need a feature where you can see peoples pronouns beside their names. Voyager doesn’t even let me see anything besides someones username and instance, even on the profile page so I can’t even look for their pronouns even if I wanted
We got names for that. It is hard adjusting to nonbinary people in a language that does not support nongendered pronouns but names and nicknames are sociacialy accepted and carry the same respect as a correct pronoun.
You could use Voyager's user tagging feature to tag people with their pronouns
Yes, and? So if a minority is small enough then it's okay to be an asshole to them?
And there's 8 billion people on earth, 1% of that is still 80 million people that somehow don't deserve respect?
Try calling a grown-ass man a 'she' and see how quickly he starts caring.
Bisexual and transphobic, what a goddamn shame.
As far as I'm aware more than 99% of people have pronouns and most of them would prefer not being called by the wrong ones
Which is why "they" and "them" and "you" exist. If this WAS a big concern for the majority then you would already have pronouns in all the apps instead of not a single one. The fact it's not there is the proof you need that most people don't think about this until it's brought up by you guys.
You might be a cis agender person considering how you talk about gender. Fascinating stuff imo.
https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/so-you-found-out-youre-agender-because-you-don-t-understand-trans-people-886fdee6f178
Thank you for that link. I might have learned something new about myself.
Happy to be of service!
I know suddenly being told your experience isn't universal might be scary. But cis people do in fact care about their pronouns. If you don't, well, I'm sorry to say it, but you are part of what you perceive as less than 1%. Which btw, is most likely a lot more than 1%
The latest numbers coming out of the US say 5% of young adults identify as trans. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/06/07/about-5-of-young-adults-in-the-u-s-say-their-gender-is-different-from-their-sex-assigned-at-birth/
It's way over 1%, and it's gonna get even higher.