i think it takes time, i think people start to recognize posters over a period of time and then eventually the stars will align and you'll have a
over the course of a few days ... and if it happens more than once, well, then I mean I guess you're friends now. After a while you start to feel comfortable ... maybe one of you asks for a Matrix account, or you DM on the bearzone... and uh then sometimes things evolve from there but I digress
but fr idk I have no idea how to intentionally do it, it feels totally by accident and its kinda scary to think about how if i missed a post or two i wouldn't have met or gotten close to at least two people who have had a big impact on my life, but lol I am so so so glad to have taken a chance and posted a bunch.