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Irreligious people, what's it like having kids when your parents are religious? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I don't think I can ever let my parents know I'm an atheist and with that seems to go my chance of having kids.

Which got me curious: can any irreligious people on here who have kids while having religious parents share what thats like?

Would love to hear your stories or thoughts on this in general.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Allowing contact is the compromise position and harm reduction strategy. Hard line would be to cut religious zealot parents out entirely. If you think they would stop at splashing water on a baby, I have a bridge to sell you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

You do you. Everybody's circumstances are different and if you think that they give no positive value to your family life then that's the way to go. This would only be a potential strategy if you didn't want to give them up.

Baptism is also a hard line a lot of Christians get on because they think it's basic hell proofing moreso than the average rituals. It's not like they will stop their general pressures if you agree... but on this particular point people have been known to risk it BIG because they believe the mortal soul is imperiled and it comes at a point when the kid is at their most physically vulnerable being practically newborn.

Risk assessment should be holistic. It's not necessarily compromise and framing it that way risks it becoming more about a battle of egos. it's about recognizing and having a real situation assessment free from personal emotional triggers about how best to respond to potential dangers that center the baby's safety first in a way that can stop the police from getting involved because faith is not reasonable.