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What do you swear by? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Brand, thing, behavior, method, advice, mantra, etc.

I swear by Blackwing pencils.

Also, the 'two minute rule', which has really improved my life: "if it takes two minutes or less to do, just do it now; if it takes longer, schedule it." I've got untreated attention issues and it's very easy for me to notice something needing done, and overlook or procrastinate it because it seems inconvenient in the moment. Having a totally painless rule that forces me to acknowledge that thing I should pick up, that trash bag I should change, etc, or, to at least put on my calendar anything I mustn't forget in the long run has been great for me.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People are assholes, who greedily eat up kindness and never, ever return it, no matter how much you need it in the moment.

They'll trauma dump on you, and not even listen to a word of your problems.

They'll beg you to help them push their dead car half a mile home, and guffah hard and say they arent your slave if you ask them to pick something up when they'll already on their way to your place.. something important for the favor you're doing for them.

They demand respect, but the second you expect it in turn you are worthless trash.

Its not a matter of if they hurt you, its simply a matter of when.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

This made me surprisingly sad to read and I hope you will find people who are not like this in your future.

I don't think I have anyone like that in my life. Not because they don't exist, but because I choose who I wish to spend my time with.

I firmly believe we should all strive to be the change we wish to see in this world, and I also believe it rubs of on others. Don't be a afraid to cut cancer out of your life my friend. It hurts while you cut, but it's better for you in the long run.