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Have you ever ghosted somebody? (lemmy.world)

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I have a couple times. The last time was a couple years ago with someone I met online who I was getting to know but didn't like after the first date. They asked if I felt like watching some movie and I didn't respond and they didn't follow up. Tbh, I probably would've answered if they had sent a second text. I guess I avoided telling them the truth but it stuck with me like a pebble in my shoe and I feel bad thinking about it.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Same, but for me a lot of it has to do with ADHD-induced anxiety. It's not always that I forgot you exist; but simply that it's been too long now, so it would be weird and awkward if I tried to re-enter your life again. So it's best to just stay away.

I've ghosted every job I've held (except one) for the same reason: can't deal with the anxiety of putting in my two weeks, so when I'm done with a job I just silently walk away without saying a thing to anyone and never come back.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

The awkward time is very real. Is it strange if I say hello? Is it strange if I don't? If I do nothing, then it's future me's problem.