neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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Depends on their personality and if they're conflict avoidant or conflict seeking.
(Unfortunately I've drafted my response for the scenario that someone is mad at you for something that you did or they think you did. If people are mad for other reasons but you're not the 'cause' of their anger, then some of this still applies. I'm adding this disclaimer because I don't want my comment to be accusatory and be read as though I assume that you have done anything wrong)
If they're conflict avoidant they may:
They are trying to get away from you, and will cut conversation short and distance themself from you. Being around you probably reminds them of what upset them, and they may need time to calm down and think through their response.
Their anger at you asking is likely to come because they expected you to have noticed from the above behaviour that they are mad. They may expect you to be the one to come forward and apologise.
In this case, what they may be expecting is either that you name specifically what you did to make them angry, if you can work it out or if it's applicable. Otherwise, if you don't, rather than asking "Are you angry" they may expect the apology first before they're willing to hear you out. Something like:
You: "Hey, I think I said/did something that upset you and I'm sorry if that was me. I'm not sure exactly was, but if you're okay with it, could you please help me understand what I did/said and how I can make amends"
Ideally, if they've had time to think, they may tell you what it is that upset them, and whether it was you, or someone else, or if they were mad and taking it out on you.
That's best case scenario. If they're resentful then even if you ask them what you did wrong they may like continue the same behaviour I listed in the dot points above.
In this case, they may need more space and time. You've extended the olive branch, so to speak, and the ball is in their court to accept the apology.
If they are resentful and want to get back at you, then, in addition to the behaviours above, they may do 'petty' things like:
Their motivation here is to deny you or harm things you enjoy while avoiding direct contact with you, and maintaining plausible deniability.
If the person is conflict seeking, unfortunately I don't have much experience with people like that.
Also this is mostly based on my experience with conflict with people in my life, so it's not an ironclad list of behaviours of upset people.
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