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I do get things done. But sometimes I think that I could have started some things early, avoid rush. Also a sort-of negative perfectionism that does the opposite, where I end up delaying the start while thinking about the best time to start and how to avoid possible trouble etc.

How do you categorise and adjust accordingly about such stuff?
If you are someone who got out of or reduced such behaviour(or helped someone to do that), what were the things that you/they did? How did you/they start out and progress etc.

Thanks in advance

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

For me, the biggest first step was recognizing my habits in letting it start and pushing myself to not let it. I had to look at my own habits, learn to recognize when they were starting, and actually push myself to get up and do.

With that last bit, though, came the why I was struggling to do in the first place. Sometimes it can be that it's something we don't enjoy, and with that, it helped to remind myself that just getting it done meant it was over with. I can get back to whatever comfort I was in when it's done, and make myself do it.

Sometimes it's more, though. My depression and anxiety heavily fed into my lack of motivation and energy, and even the perfectionism I struggled with was fueled by anxiety that I'd somehow get it wrong.

That took getting help, medication, and changing a lot of my own thought process. Making a schedule definitely helped me with feeling like I wasn't getting done "on time" or early enough. If I know something takes me 30 minutes, I schedule it out for 45 so if I take longer, I'm still not "behind", and if I get done quicker, hey, I got some free time!

Learning to give myself some slack really helped, too. I had to tell myself it was okay if everything wasn't perfect, if something came up, because we can't plan for everything. The only thing we can do is try. Sometimes we give it our all, but something outside of our control goes wrong.

Learn to recognize and break negative thought processes. Don't ignore mistakes or accidents, and don't just bottle up negative emotion, but recognize when the thoughts are becoming a block.

Find what motivates you. Sometimes it's easier to get through the rough when you know there's something worth it at the end.