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I feel the need to say beforehand, I'm slightly drunk right now, and my inhibitions are lowered by this, but this has been bothering me lately.

I don't know of I need some kind of help. I've kind of become enamored with a "slutty, bimbo" look for myself, wearing really short booty shorts and really short crop tops, and wanting to adopt a "slutty" lifestyle. I've always liked the idea of being indiscriminate of my partners. I want to say, though, I can't right now, since she left.

Depressing thoughts aside, should I talk to my therapist about this? I don't want to end up using sex to cope with my mental deficiencies, but, my mind is equating what I've always wanted in a partner is what I've really wanted for myself.

I'm ashamed of being slut-shamed, or my kids seeing me with multiple sexual partners. I know it is too early to think about sex, but I'm really self conscious about my innate desire to dress and be slutty. I'm sorry if I'm oversharing, but I don't know what to do with this part of myself.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, but it would be weird in a few years when I start dating again for my kids to meet a different date of the week, if I brought any one home. Idk. It's waaaaaay to early to even think about that. I don't even think I've started to grieve properly. I kinda think I'm happier, in a way, that she's gone.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The kids shouldn’t be meeting your date of the week, they need something more stable than that (in my opinion of course, no shame). I have always been the type to want to know who I’m introducing to my kids, and I’ve seen enough of my divorced friends get pissed about it or hold each other to different standards that I wouldn’t want to have to go through it myself.