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I started estrogen and anti-androgen about 6 years ago, and it's worked well. Changes have been slow since I take a low dose to prevent overdosing since I don't get any blood tests on account of not doing it officially, since I was denied on account of refusing to dress in drag for my disgusting doctor (he saw me as a man), who denied me on account of not proving I'm really a woman. Though at this point I'm pretty far along and mostly pass, if not for my voice (I still sound like a man ๐Ÿ˜ญ). Even though it's largely gone well, I would've really preferred to do it officially. Apparently it's not an option though for me. Anyone else have any experiences with DIY they'd like to share?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Started by going through the official system, went diy after they went from treating me bad to horrible. And it honestly gave me a lot of confidence to not feel like I depend on those assholes anymore, even if I go back later. It still broke me a bit that I no longer trust doctors.

Maybe you can get a new assessment with a different doctor, if you still want that?

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I've been trying from different doctors. I've still been denied on the same basis. That I'm not feminine presenting enough for them, I'm probably never going to be enough by their standards I don't really like dresses and I only wear makeup to conceal blemishes and a few face scars I have.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Uggh, those standards are so bad. I hope you are somewhat comfortable with your current setup.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I'm mostly okay now, but I wish my voice was more fem. It's very deep and that sucks. I know I'll need voice surgery, voice training hasn't helped โ˜น๏ธ