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If you're ok with being up front with people, you could just say "hey, do you mind giving me some alone time while I eat? It's nothing personal, I just prefer to use this time to recharge by myself."
If you'd prefer to manufacture an excuse, you could tell her you're going to use your lunch hour to try a new mindfulness meditation technique you heard about, and need to avoid conversation during that time.
If you have the option to take your lunch somewhere else where she won't find or bother you, that's an option.
I think usually just keeping your nose in your book a few seconds too long before giving short answers to questions, then going right back to reading, is enough discomfort for a person like her that even if she didn't get the hint that you don't care to be bothered, she would at least prefer talking to someone else instead.