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I didn't read your whole comment, but from what i did read I can say this is basically the correct answer. The only thing I'd add is to also include nice sentiments and productivity explanations.
Like:
"Hey [person's name], do you have a couple minutes? I wanna have a quick chat. I wanna let you know that I'm a significant introvert, which means i need alone time and and social boundaries. I think you're a very nice person and i appreciate all the efforts you've made trying to connect with me, but that actually makes things more difficult for me. It emotionally stresses me out, and that in turn also reduces my productivity at work. I think you're great, but it would be really helpful to me if there were no extra social interactions with me beyond what's needed for our work to get done smoothly. I know you have good intentions when asking about my personal life and striking up conversations, and i honestly appreciate that intent, but it would be great if I could have social interactions kept to the minimum. I really appreciate your consideration on this stuff, thanks."