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Say hypothetically I've already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

males of my age generally had to make the move. its possibly different now. I can count on one hand the girls I knew from college and before who asked a guy out first.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

My realization, now, was that they did. I was too clueless on picking up cues to realize it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I feel like even within the straight paradigm women do a lot to express interest and can still feel "shot down" when those signals aren't reciprocated, outside of also asking guys out

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

oh yeah. Flirting is totally different. I would say growing up girls flirted more than guys.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Same in France among students. Males are expected to make the move