▲ 587 ▼ Good point (lemmy.world) submitted 2 years ago by ilovecinnamon@lemmy.world to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world 107 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (1 child) Because sometimes people would rather lie and sneak around than have an adult conversation about relationship expectations. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Emerald@lemmy.world -9 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children) people would rather lie and sneak around Well yeah. That's a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don't care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat Edit: okay I'm being downvoted so I should mention that I know this "breakup strategy" isn't for everyone but if you don't mind permenantly burning a bridge, to me there is no harm in it. As long as the person you are cheating on them with knows what you are doing and is okay with it permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you. End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish. Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. Maybe that's what it is for you permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Maybe that’s what it is for you This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent [–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago That's rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You're okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn't feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I'm fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead. permalink fedilink source parent [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) to me there is no harm in it. Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there's no harm. But the person you're cheating on, the person who's trust you've violated, who's time you've wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there's a lot of harm for them. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time! Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Emerald@lemmy.world -9 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children) people would rather lie and sneak around Well yeah. That's a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don't care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat Edit: okay I'm being downvoted so I should mention that I know this "breakup strategy" isn't for everyone but if you don't mind permenantly burning a bridge, to me there is no harm in it. As long as the person you are cheating on them with knows what you are doing and is okay with it permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you. End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish. Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. Maybe that's what it is for you permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Maybe that’s what it is for you This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent [–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago That's rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You're okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn't feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I'm fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead. permalink fedilink source parent [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) to me there is no harm in it. Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there's no harm. But the person you're cheating on, the person who's trust you've violated, who's time you've wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there's a lot of harm for them. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time! Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you. End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish. Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. Maybe that's what it is for you permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Maybe that’s what it is for you This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Emerald@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer. Maybe that's what it is for you permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Maybe that’s what it is for you This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Maybe that’s what it is for you This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) That sounds like a great plan honestly permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago Well, you certainly get points for consistency. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago That's rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You're okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn't feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I'm fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) to me there is no harm in it. Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there's no harm. But the person you're cheating on, the person who's trust you've violated, who's time you've wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there's a lot of harm for them. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time! Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Emerald@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time! Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Emerald@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car. Like 30 times a day? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago As frequently as I want to. permalink fedilink source parent