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[–] 3 points 2 years ago (8 children)

Apart from what other people have pointed out- what if one of your friends does great harm to another of your friends? How do you stay loyal to both of them?

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    You pretend to be on the side of both of them, but it could fall apart very quickly. So I don't do it anymore. I just make my own arguments and side with the victim.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    So you were lying to your friends about having their back? That makes you the bad friend.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago* (5 children)

    Yes, that's kind off true. I don't lie to them about having their back, I lie to them about my opinion as I try to avoid conflict. I don't do it against my actual friends, just to people I'm forced to communicate with to function in society.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

    Using people for your benefit also makes you a bad friend, and a questionable person.

    It's also a step down the road to advocating for slavery.

    Doing something really immoral to a person who mistreats you while pretending to be their friends is not the right way to deal with such situations.

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