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While growing up everything gave me the impression that sex is the best thing in life and everything revolves around it. Many of my friends had their first experiences really young and it seemed like something really exciting and something to look forward to. However after my couple first experiences I was met with the harsh reality that it wasn't what I was expecting. I already had a long history of enjoying porn and masturbation and I then just felt like including another person added nothing to it for me. Quite the opposite really - it just got more complicated and often felt like a chore. Like asking someone else to scratch an itch for me.

I don't know anyone else like me and I'm confused about what am I. I'm quite sexual being but I just don't care about the act of sex itself. I resonate with a alot of things I hear aces talking about but I also feel like I'm not quite welcome in this club either.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Older guy here.

As a virgin I never really wanted to fuck girls my age as much as the other guys did. Yeah, I watched porn and yeah, I jerked off, but I wasn’t obsessed with sex like everyone else was. Eventually I got a girlfriend and we fell in ‘puppy love’, and I was off-and-away, screwing my brains out.

A few years later I was single again, and again I wasn’t that fussed with screwing girls. Things got really confusing for me when I’d meet gorgeous girls, take them home, and couldn’t perform. What was wrong with me?

Over many years I’ve discovered that I need an emotional connection. Once I have it or fall in love, I enjoy sex like it’s an Olympic sport, but no love or no emotional connection, and I’m just not interested no matter how hot she is.

It took me a long time to figure this out and I have no idea what it is, and I’ve done the limp-dick walk-of-shame out of more girls’ apartments in my life than I care to remember, but it’s just who I am.

Now that I’m older, I let women know my deal straight up, and I tell them I prefer to wait before jumping into bed. A few girls wanting a one night stand have been pissed off, but heaps more have been more than happy to wait, and eventually we fuck like rabbits and everyone is happy.