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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 months ago (1 children)

And also, all relationships are valuable. A good friendship is a wonderful boon to your mental health... and if you're seeking a relationship for sex there are far easier ways to do it.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Also, expanding on that, if you go into every interaction with a narrow expectation (e.g. to find the love of your life) you will be disappointed almost all the time but if you keep an open mind you might come out of that with some other positive interactions (a new friend, an interesting conversation, ...) than you expected or were hoping for.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

This one right here!

Love isn't commanded, but if you have friends you're so much more likely to meet people that might be like you, and that's what makes love work in the long run too.

Good luck!